tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post4373349836307376008..comments2024-01-19T22:01:50.746-05:00Comments on Three Wicked Writers Plus Two: Teens and PregnancyCari Quinnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06581235338272282124noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-27660575764351307772008-06-27T11:54:00.000-04:002008-06-27T11:54:00.000-04:00Marvelous discussion. Jen, you are freaking BRILL...Marvelous discussion. Jen, you are freaking BRILLIANT! <BR/><BR/>I have teenage boys. Neither is sexually active yet, but it's early years, and I expect it will happen. I would rather buy condoms than diapers. Both of them know this. We're very open about sex discussions in our household--I think knowing what I write makes it easier for them to approach me--and yes, they will have a large Cindy Spencer Papehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01583236494759465431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-25783567905917966282008-06-27T10:01:00.000-04:002008-06-27T10:01:00.000-04:00Tonya--I'm sorry you weren't able to talk to your ...Tonya--I'm sorry you weren't able to talk to your parents but kudos for being so open and honest with your own kids!Anne Raineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06110446131001665977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-86260181972785598052008-06-26T22:07:00.000-04:002008-06-26T22:07:00.000-04:00Whew...you picked a great topic....could write a b...Whew...you picked a great topic....could write a book on this one. LOL!!! Anyway, I think that many kids think it would be cool to be parents....why?? Ok....it is cool but wow...it is hard!! <BR/><BR/>As a child I wasn't able to talk to my parents about boys, sex or anything in between. When I was in the 4th grade a boy asked me if I had a c... I didn't know what it was, I asked my mom whatTonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06457342710187975653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-23924950659268756052008-06-26T18:55:00.000-04:002008-06-26T18:55:00.000-04:00Jen,I just want to say one thing to you , about yo...Jen,I just want to say one thing to you , about your comment,<BR/><BR/>YOU GO GIRL!<BR/><BR/>awesome job.<BR/>thanks,CindyCindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12605638591554884818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-85660157768066808802008-06-26T17:33:00.000-04:002008-06-26T17:33:00.000-04:00Jen--now why am I not surprised that you figured o...Jen--now why am I not surprised that you figured out a way to help this girl? Can we clone you???!!! :)<BR/><BR/>It's so sad there there are parents out there who don't show their kids the love they deserve. At least it sounds like this girl got her happy ending. :)Anne Raineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06110446131001665977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-9300042768950884142008-06-26T15:42:00.000-04:002008-06-26T15:42:00.000-04:00I'd like to add another scenario into the discussi...I'd like to add another scenario into the discussion. A few years ago I worked with teenagers (on a volunteer basis). We had this one young girl who was bound and determined to have a baby. It was all she talked about. After long discussions with this girl, it came out that she was living in a really bad home life. Her comment to me was, "I just want something of my very own that will love Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12017427200723364752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-47248511454653961712008-06-26T14:14:00.000-04:002008-06-26T14:14:00.000-04:00Cindy--I've seen it so many times with parents, sa...Cindy--I've seen it so many times with parents, saying yes just to get them out of their hair. Not wanting to bother. <BR/><BR/>I also think it is VERY important to be the parent and not the friend.Anne Raineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06110446131001665977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-23605996614150813742008-06-26T13:16:00.000-04:002008-06-26T13:16:00.000-04:00Kelley, that's a great idea and one I hadn't thoug...Kelley, that's a great idea and one I hadn't thought of. Girls who are sexually active should carry a condom too. STD's are RAMPANT. Better safe than sorry.<BR/><BR/>Yeah, Cindy, I know what you mean. Most of us want to do right by our children...teach them moral values and responsibility. I've always been the emotional backbone of my family and I'm happy my kids can come to me and tell me the Regina Carlyslehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316730032624449669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-12746390643728705702008-06-26T12:06:00.000-04:002008-06-26T12:06:00.000-04:00Hey Anne, I feel like alot of the problem is the f...Hey Anne, I feel like alot of the problem is the fact that mom's & dad's are working two jobs just to supply there kids with the best money can buy,they don't have time to have a relationship much less watch & know what there kids are up too,then when they are around,they want to be there friend.<BR/>I have two sons & I am there parent first, not there friend. Kids need stability,love & disiplineCindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12605638591554884818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-72778925312039478252008-06-26T11:48:00.000-04:002008-06-26T11:48:00.000-04:00Very true, Anny!! I think girls take a lot of it a...Very true, Anny!! I think girls take a lot of it and people forget about that guys. <BR/><BR/>I totally agree with both Anne and Regina. Open communication with your children is a must. They have to know you support them and will give them the precautions they need like Regina said, no questions asked. Its a fact that most kids are going to explore with sex. Just telling them not to do it won't Kelley Nyraehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00370986712526819194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-29528212600807673672008-06-26T11:34:00.000-04:002008-06-26T11:34:00.000-04:00Anny--Thanks for mentioning the other half of the ...Anny--Thanks for mentioning the other half of the pregnancy issue, guys. It takes two! These girls aren't getting pregnant all by themselves!Anne Raineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06110446131001665977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-53919930417596093832008-06-26T11:20:00.000-04:002008-06-26T11:20:00.000-04:00When my daughter was 14 she thought she might be p...When my daughter was 14 she thought she might be pregnant. Ugh. After the panic was over--yes--she went on the pill. <BR/><BR/>In the meantime she mentioned the two girls she knew who had already had abortions. They were 11 years old. <BR/><BR/>Pregnancy with girls is a scary issue but don't forget that it takes a GUY to get them that way and it's at least half his responsibility. Too many Anny Cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05305873753916213970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-21402258924014385512008-06-26T10:50:00.000-04:002008-06-26T10:50:00.000-04:00Oh, I don't think anyone will get you wrong here, ...Oh, I don't think anyone will get you wrong here, Anne. Things happen with kids/sex/pregnancy. That fact has been true since the beginning of time but no one wants to see their child faced with a decision like this at such a young age. Best for us moms to be prepared and be realistic.Regina Carlyslehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316730032624449669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-51211892837315170512008-06-26T10:41:00.000-04:002008-06-26T10:41:00.000-04:00Also, I'd like to add one last thing. This isn't t...Also, I'd like to add one last thing. This isn't to say that ALL girls who get pregnant are bad or wrong. <B>PLEASE</B> don't misunderstand my post!<BR/><BR/>Soemtimes, despite how careful you are, things do happen. It's just fate. Nevertheless, being responsible <I>afterwards</I> is what seperates the mature from the not so mature.Anne Raineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06110446131001665977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-7883621400322390832008-06-26T10:36:00.000-04:002008-06-26T10:36:00.000-04:00Great, great answer!!! Absolutely!!Yes, we had the...Great, great answer!!! Absolutely!!<BR/><BR/>Yes, we had the talk with our two awhile back as well. And it was very enlightening, for them and us. They were getting a lot of info from friends at school that wasn't true, setting them straight is part of why it's important to TALK to your kids.<BR/><BR/>I admit I'm lucky because my husband is very open with the girls, they both know they can talk Anne Raineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06110446131001665977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927196002363676480.post-82172119877067960492008-06-26T10:28:00.000-04:002008-06-26T10:28:00.000-04:00Thought provoking post, Anne. I have two kids. My ...Thought provoking post, Anne. I have two kids. My son is 22 and gone from home now and my daughter just turned 17. I'll NEVER forget my son coming home (he was in middle school at the time) and talked about the girls at school who were pregnant. I was like...HUH???WHAT???? HOLY SHIT!!!!! My daughter mentioned this stuff when SHE was in middle school. MIDDLE SCHOOL??? Lord, it's a scary world out Regina Carlyslehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316730032624449669noreply@blogger.com