Hmm, sounds like the title of a documentary. LOL It's not. But, I do want to talk about the erotic writer and all the stuff that comes with that particular tag.
Erotic writers put up with a lot of crap. Did you know that? Since I've started writing hot stories I've been told my writing is 'trash'. Isn't that insane? I think it is. Sometimes I can let it flow right off me, other times it makes my blood boil. It's crazy to think that just because I give details in my love scenes that somehow makes me less of a person. Not to mention the fact that other writers look down on us, as if they're better somehow. I once asked a very popular author to give me a quote on a book. She refused. She blamed it on something else, but we both knew the truth, she didn't want her good name attached to a book that was considered erotic. I just wanted to laugh at that. Why is it that authors who write regular romance, or even authors who write suspense or thrillers think they're somehow more intelligent? Is it really better writing or is it just different? I say it's just different. Of course I'm not saying ALL authors have this attitude, but some do.
Here's the truth. I have to have a plot, engaging characters, and a great ending the same as the rest. I don't throw together a story and call myself an author. I outline, I revise, I spend hours and hours at the computer pulling together a story worthy of reading. I deserve to be looked at with the same respect as any other genre. Do I make nasty remarks to those who write sweet romance? Do I read a bloody scene in a thriller and want to pray for the author's poor confused soul? No, I don't. Anyone who spends hours sweating over a story to make it shine has my respect, regardless of the type of story.
Myths surrounding erotic romance authors:
We're all a bunch of nymphos
We're all trapped in a loveless marriage
We grew up with a screwed up set of morals
We're all the products of sexual abuse
We masturbate while we write
You might think the above list is nuts, but I've heard all of those things at least once.
Now for the truth, Are you ready for it? Here goes....we're people just like you. Yep, it’s true. Moms and dads, wives and husbands, stay-home parents, career people. We're your neighbor. We're no different, no worse, no better. Our stories take talent and a lot of hard work to write. After all, you try writing a ménage! It's not as easy as it seems, let me tell ya! Keeping those guys and gals from standing on their heads is so not a piece of cake! LOL
Now, to leave you with a question. How many of you have been afraid to admit to your family and friends that you read/write erotic romance? And be honest! I can easily say that I still have a hard time admitting what I do for a living. I literally brace myself for the dirty looks. I know that if I want to see someone shut down really fast that's the way to do it. Sad, but true.
CONTEST REMINDER: Regina’s contest from yesterday is still going on! She’ll be picking a winner tomorrow, Friday!
Thursday, November 6, 2008
the erotic myth
Magically appeared by Anne Rainey at 8:08 AM