Do you ever get tired of being a maid? I swear lately my family has it in their heads that I'm their maide. Yesterday my eyes were opened to the fact they've gotten used to me doing things for them so they don't have to bother. Making an after school snack becomes a chore because everything is left on the counter, I'm expected to go behind them and clean up the messes as they go. I usually don't get frustrated with this type of thing. Usually I simply say, 'the maid quit, cleam up your mess'. They clean up their mess. But why do even have to ask?! Why do I have say anything at all? You got it out, you put it away. It's simple. And if everyone cleaned up after themselves, life would be way simpler!
I wish I could say this is just the kids doing this but it's not. My husband, bless his heart, does it too. It's harder for me to be angry with him though, because when I quit working a full time job to stay home with the kids, I took the running of the house. He cooks, I clean. We've always worked well together. But as my life is exploding these days with deadlines, I'm starting to see that my job as a wife and stay-home mom has altered a little. I now need time to work, not just take care of everyone. It's been an uncomfortable realization for all of us really. In the backs of our minds we've known this day would come. We knew at some point I wouldn't be able to do the dishes, laundry, organizing all on my own. It's gotten to the point where the closets are a wreck, the sock basket is overflowing, and I'm pretty much just keeping the day to day stuff done.
Now, this isn't to say the kids don't help, because they do. They get an allowance each week to do certain chores. But lately we've all gotten lazy. Some of the chorse get done, others don't. Some days they don't get done at all. This is partly my fault for not enforcing the rules harder, but really I've found myself too busy to care if everything gets done.
So, last night my husband comes home from a party and tells me how clean and neat the house was that he'd been to. Even the garage was neat as a pin. I always wonder what type of person has a neat garage. I've never considered my house messy. I almost always keep things neat and tidy, but lately I just haven't had the time. So, what happens? It piles up.
My solution? After Christmas and before New Year's I plan to get everyone involved in the 'big clean up'. I figure if everyone has a few jobs, it'll all get done and I won't have to break my back doing it all. We all live here, why shouldn't we all help keep the place clean?
How do you handle situations like this. Both parents working, whether at home or not, kids busy with school work and sports. By the end of the day we're all just too tired to care. What's the answer? Trust me when I say, I'm all ears here! I'm at the end of my rope!