It's Monday and it's time to rant. LOL
We all have someone in our life that makes us crazy. That person you try to avoid at all costs. She/he wants one thing, to USE you. Well, in the writing world there are users too. Unfortunately. They don't want to do their own legwork, so they hit you up instead. After all, why go to all the trouble if you can just send an email to someone and get all the answers you need in one swoop? Here's the clincher, they're not your crit partner, they're not there when you need them. These people spring up only when they're in need. Amazing how quiet they are the rest of the time, isn't it?
Writers are always willing to share information. Please don't get me wrong, that's what writers do. We help each other. I love that aspect of this business. We're all willing to give some advice, help out if someone is stumped on a plot, a blurb, trying to come up with a title. Share research information. We share information about good publishers and bad publishers. Fantastic editors and duds. We scratch each other's backs all the time and that's a wonderful thing. But then you always have a few that don't do any damned scratching! Those are the ones you just shake your head over, isn't it? The best friend, as long as you have something she/he wants. I've come across a few and let me just say, I've learned that users are a real pain in the ass.
In real life it happens much in the same way. A smiling buddy or family member...when they need you to run an errand or fix their problem. Or drop everything to give them your entire day because they couldn't be bothered to make proper freaking plans!
I can't figure out if these individuals really understand that they're being incredibly annoying or not. Maybe they really don't see the error of their ways. Maybe they don't get the fact that they are permenantly on my list of people to avoid. However, I don't think that's the case. I think they know and just don't give a crap. After all, someone who does it time and time again, with no regards to you or your time, can't possibly be that dense. I think it's more a case of, they just don't really care if they're being a user. It's simply who they are.
Any thoughts? LOL