Wednesday, March 24, 2010
I'm talking about the double standards on what a male character is allowed to get away with that a female character isn't. I think it's automatic sometimes, as writers and readers, to give the hero more leeway than we do the heroine. Is it because we're harder on women because we are a female? I wonder if the opposite is true for a male writer or reader.
Anne, Regina and I were chatting the other day about some of these double standards. A lot of books out there have the hero as/was promiscuous. He's a bachelor and he's enjoying it. Of course that changes when he meets the heroine, but why is it he can have slept with half the town, but the heroine is almost always so virtuous? Why is it okay for him and not her? Granted I KNOW not all books are written this way, but it seems I read more that are than aren't.
I do believe erotic romance has brought us a long way toward evening those double standards out. That's one of the things I love about erotic romance: it shows women it is OKAY to be sexual. To enjoy sex.
Do you tend to let the hero get away with more than the heroine? Doesn't have to be pertaining to sex, but do you feel like your easier on him? I do some times. I think it's automatic and I don't even realize I'm doing it. I'm going to work on changing that.