Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Condoms: Yay, nay or doesn't matter?
There are no right or wrong answers to this one but I'm curious what your opinion is on using of condoms in romance books. I've heard two different sides to the debate. The first is that stopping the scene to have the hero put on a condom can take the reader out of the story. Personally, I don't see that as an issue. Most of the time the condom reference is a short one liner basically saying he ripped open the package and sheathed himself. Quick, to the point and then you can get on with the hot lovin'. I've also heard some people say that they read for escapism, fantasy where real life problems don't exist hence the reason that condoms aren't needed. As long as the heroine in on the pill, STD's are non-existent in the romance world. Sure there are references that the partners are clean but that's it. Those readers don't want to be reminded about all the repercussions that exist when sex is involved with real life couples. The other side of that same opinion is the fact that in real life pregnancy and STD's are a real issue and should be reflected in the books we read. That's makes it more realistic, but do we want realistic in our fantasy? When you read a romance scene do you want to be lost in that sexy, steamy moment and not have to think about real life issues like pregnancy or disease? After all, this is fantasy. Do we treat it as such or do we owe it to the teenage girl who grabbed a romance off her mom's shelf to present couples that engage in safe sex? Does it really matter at all? What about erotic romance? Is it easier to get by without using condoms if you're writing erotic romance compared to mainstream? Or are you like me and each specific story dictates if condoms should be used or if the couple can get away with not using them?