Nope. Not talking about wild jungle animals. Welllll on second thought, maybe I am. I know quite a few over-40 women who have quite a bit of GRRRRR about them. They are Cougars. Over forty-ish powerful, sexy, single/divorced women who loooove younger men. And what the hell is wrong with that?
We know all about the cliched stories. Kids are grown and gone off to college or wherever and husband decides to dip his toes in the lake of freedom and escape his middle-aged-ness by tooling off in a brand new Porsche with a brand new honey-bunny. We hear these tales every day but more and more the woman left behind decides that rather than crawl into a cave with a box of Godiva and a case of wine, she'd prefer to take her LIFE BACK!
So she slips into a sexy outfit complete with flashing red stillettos and goes on the prowl. Once again, I ask, what the hell is wrong with that? It may not be as dramatic as I've painted but the phenomenon is becoming more accepted than it might have been ten years ago. Probably the most famous cougar is Demi Moore who appeared in one of the Charlie's Angels movies a few years ago and blew everyone away. Sexy, built, confident, smart, and sassy. Over 40! Yeah...you GO DEMI!!!! Wasn't long after the movie, she started dating yummy, young Ashton and now, from all reports they are happily married and setting a standard for other May/December romances.
Men have done this kind of thing for years. Gone for younger women by offering the lure of stability and wealth as a great big carrot. Why can't women do the same? For a woman, dating a younger man offers major rewards not the least of them...SEX. After all a woman reaches her sexual peak in her 40's while men peak in their mid-20's. So yeah, Hot Sex. Can't argue with that. Now you might be wondering what a young stud would find appealing about a woman old enough to be his mom or...er, his older sister. Confidence, wisdom, the insight to know who she is and what she wants. She's going to call things as they are and not bat an eye. Men find that appealing and yeah, sexy. Women over forty have it all going on. They are done with the baby thing and are free to travel, let loose and have some fun.
As for the Cougar who has a young stud by the tail? She gains the confidence to, at last, revel in her own sexuality.
The romance fiction market finally picked up on this new phenomenon and I say...YAY for THEM. In May and June, Ellora's Cave launched a line of Cougar stores called Oh Yum. My own book, Tempting Tess, is a Cougar tale. If you haven't read one of these, I think you'll find them fun, sexy and often touching. My heroine, Tess, isn't the typical Cougar. She's a widow of two years with a grown daughter who learns that life for her didn't end after burying a husband and sending a child out into the world. It's just a beginning.
So, what are your thoughts about the Cougar thing? Do you see benefits or problems in this kind of relationship? For me, I think these women have it all going ON. So GRRRR Cougars! Go for it!