Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Rejection...how to deal?
I'm in the middle of sending out queries for agents right now. I went into this knowing that it is damn tough to get an agent but probably even more so right now. Your logical mind knows that it will be tough, knows that there is a chance, no, that its really likely that you will get a no thank you. I think in the back of our minds there is always that hope, or belief that we just may be different. Maybe...just maybe the first agent/editor on your list will fall absolutely head over heels with your book. Yeah right. LOL. Not saying that never happens but most of the time we all have to deal with rejection in some way, shape or form. Why doesn't knowing that make it any easier to deal with? Through this two week search of mine I've gotten a couple no thank yous but I've also gotten a request for more material. Guess what's sticking in my head? The no thank yous. It's so hard some times to see past rejection in ANY facet of our lives. Not just writing but from men, friends, a job, our kids. Rejection comes in so many ways, each of them equally hard to deal with.
My question for you is how do you deal with rejections in your life? Also how do you make yourself focus on the positive without letting the negative cloud you over?