Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Pet peeves...I know you have them!

It's that time again where we like to give you all a chance to vent. I know every couple months, okay a little more often than that but I know I can't get away with it as often as I'd like. LOL. Anyway, everyone couple months I have a whole load of stuff I need to get off my chest. For me it's that time again. Things have been festering and I figure its time to let them out before they bubble over. I swear, I'm not an easily annoyed just might seem like it.

Okay, I hope this doesn't come out wrong. I know this person. Let's just call her Jane. Well Jane has never, in the years and years I've known her, mentioned that she liked, planned or did write. But ever since I became a published author, any time I mention anything about my writing she decides she's going to do it too. I mentioned writing a short story to submit to Spice Briefs. She asks a couple questions about how long they are, etc. After I tell her she says, "That is so cool. I'm going to do it too! Wouldn't hurt to make a little extra money" Let me start by saying I'm not trying to say she can't do it. She may be a fantastic writer, who will make it big. She may have a hidden love of writing that I never knew about but it does drive me crazy that she quickly "decides" she's just going to write, when she's never written before, and automatically get published to "make extra money". That makes me feel like she thinks what I do is the easiest thing. Like anyone can just say, "Hmm, I'm going to write a story, submit it to NY and get published" and it will just happen with no research, no practice, no years of rejection. Yes that may happen but not every often. Writing is hard and not everyone can do it but I don't feel like some people realize that. It actually hurts my feelings. Writing is hard damn work! We put our hearts and souls into it and that means something to me....okay....going to end gripe number one before I go on and on.

On to my list of pet peeves. LOL. Bad drivers annoy the heck out of me. It drives me crazy to see people swerving around the road while talking on their cell phone or eating and I'm dodging them with my two little girls in the back seat. Hungry? Pull over. Get a phone call? Ignore it. Really, it shouldn't be that hard to understand.

People who are ALWAYS late. I'm not saying I'm never late but I'm talking about the people you have to tell to meet you at one if you want them to meet you at two. I think it takes more work to always be late than it does to be on time. YOu know yourself. YOu know how long it takes you to get ready, etc. Plan and be there. If a person is late every time I do something with them it tells me they don't respect me or my time. Like they think I have nothing better to do than wait. It may not seem like I live that exciting of a life, but I value my time, however I may spend it. LOL.

Last...well not last but the last one I'll mention for today is bad manners. I try my best to each my children to be respectful and it drives me crazy when I see adults in the grocery store or wherever who are not as polite as my five year old daughter. When someone almost runs her over with a cart, and my child says excuse me yet they don't, there is something wrong with that picture.

Exhale breath, Kelley. LOL. I'm getting a little worked up here. What are some of your pet peeves or big things that drive you crazy? Come on, this is your chase to get it off your chest!


Regina Carlysle said...

I think we all have to have a 'vent day' so we don't just EXPLODE. Every holiday we give my mom a time an hour ahead just so she makes it here when dinner is served. She's always about an hour late. Drives me nuts. Yes, she's my mom and I love her but....damn!

Liane Gentry Skye said...

My pet peeves are certain family members who won't directly ask me about what I write, but choose instead to do google searches on me and gossip about my "shameful activities" to my folks. ARGHHHHH, it makes me insane.

Anne Rainey said...

I totally hear you, Kelley! I get so frustrated with people who think it's a matter of 1,2,3 to get published. Seriously! In what world do they live??!!

Pet Peeves--F'ing users! You know the ones. They ask you a MILLION damn questions about your publisher, editor, agent, sales, and when you're kind enough to answer their damn questions they drop you like a hot potato. And when you ask them a question they answer with some stupid vague bullshit that's about as helpful as a freaking fly.

Next pet peeve--People who are son centered on themselves that ALL you hear about is their problems, their accomplishments, their life.

Next pet peeve--People who think writing erotic romance is somehow easier than writing a thriller or some other type of fiction. I'd like to see them sit down and write an exciting, emotional, spicy 20 page love scene, then do another in the next book that won't mirror the first, and so on. Please!

Next pet peeve--People who hear that I now have an agent somehow get it in their tiny brain that I sent out one query and got an acceptance. Yeah, right. I wish!

Desirée Lee said...

I have several but the one that comes to mind first is people who drive the wrong way in parking lots. I know, it's not an earth-shattering pet peeve, but it drives me nuts. Hello, they paint the lines (and arrows) a certain direction for a reason!! Grrrr.

Carpe Noctem,

Desirée Lee
Putting the Romance Back in Necromancy

Kelley Nyrae said...

Now doesn't it feel better to vent, ladies? LOL.

Mary Ricksen said...

Interesting topic!
My biggest, very biggest, pet peeve is liars. I abhor people who lie.
Tell me the truth even if I don't like it, when I find out later it was a lie, I will lose all respect for that person. It's sad when people are like that.

Mia Watts said...

Perhaps you make writing look easy? A tribute to your talent and success.

Peeve: Assumptions. Don't make them. Ever. Be certain one way or another.