I was watching an old episode of Charmed the other day. The girls and I love that show. Even now when all the episodes are reruns we record them anyway. Nevertheless, this one episode was on where Piper gets shot by the crazy lady who swears she's 'just like them'. In other words, she's a witch and wants to get their attention. To have them notice her, acknowledge her as one of their peers. They end up throwing her out and treating her like she's just a pest. She gets angry...thus the event that changes the Charmed Ones forever.
Why bring this up? Well, I've been pondering the notion that a single event, or person, can change how you view so many things. Like a domino effect. Let's say it's a person you've always looked up to. They say one thing and it throws you for a loop. This happened to me recently. Only with me it was more like they said and did SEVERAL things!
I'm the type of person who tends to give people the benefit of the doubt. Everyone has an off day. No one is perfect. We all say or do things that we don't always mean. We don't intend to hurt others, of course, sometimes words simply come out and it's all just wrong. I've done this myself, I know I have. I try to be careful and still I screw up.
At any rate, I was on the recieving end the other day. Someone I always admired turned out to NOT be the person I thought they were. Even so, I kept thinking I'm being too hard on them. Expecting too much. So, stepping back and letting things happen in their own time seemed a good idea. Then more things occured. I finally had to face the fact that someone I always looked up to wasn't quite the person I thought they were. Damn, that's a hard thing to face! I don't generally idolize people. My brothers, maybe. But they're perfect so it's okay to idolize them. LOL
Seriously though, have you ever found yourself in the position where your idol turned out to be lame? Did it bother you much or did you just move on? Whether a movie star, family member, teacher, singer, writer, whatever. We all have people we look up to, don't we? And looking up to them, even using them as a model isn't necessarily a bad thing. Our idols get us through some of the hardest times in our lives, even though they don't know it. And I don't expect anyone to be perfect, it's not about perfection. But when your idol turns out to be an egotistical idiot, that's a slap in the face that you can't ignore, ya know?
So, has this ever happened to you? If so, was it hard to learn that the person you respected and admired wasn't all that worthy of respect and admiration?