Thursday, August 4, 2011

It Must Be Thursday

There is this line from Buffy The Vampire Slayer where Willow or someone says, "Buffy, Dawn's in trouble!" And Buffy answers, "Must be a Tuesday". I'm feeling very Dawn-esque these days, except my name is Mia and for me, "It must be Thursday."

Today, like the past month of Thursdays, is another challenge waiting for my attention. You see, my air conditioner broke down on the first day of the hottest month of the year, in the hottest heatwave Grand Rapids, Michigan has had in years. Yes, that's my luck. Fortunately a guy friend (for he is not my boyfriend, but also not exactly a friend, but a guy I date sometimes. And by date, I mean fool around with when I'm bored--translate that however you want to) gave me his AC window unit. But, I don't work in my bedroom, so, I spend the days sweating--much less than sexy. And now, here I sit in air conditioned comfort, at Bronwyn Green's house. It's a beautiful thing... until I have to go back home again.

So I've been dating (follow me here, folks. I switched topics. Yes, I can do that.) a bunch lately. I'm not exactly sure how it all happened. I mean, I'm not exactly man-manna and so the fact that I've had six dates in the last five days with three different men, seems a bit--okay, a lot--out of character for me. Livin' the dream baby.

Here's the thing though. One of the guys looks like my ex but he's so nice. That's the AC giving guy. He's kind, non-judgmental, and if it makes me happy, then he's content. There's another guy I really hit it off with. I like him. He makes me laugh and makes me a little nervous. He kisses like crap and I have no desire to get physical with him for other reasons I wouldn't be a lady for mentioning. The third guy is hot. Like FREAKIN' HOT, but it doesn't look like he's going to call me back. I think the male/male erotic romance writer schtick kind of turned him cold. Too bad, because although he was a dick, I'd kind of like to keep that one around for visual stimulation.

Sadly, none of them get my motor going. It's like kissing a friend. Or a brother. I mean, you can squint your eyes and pretend, but all in all, they aren't the ones I want to end up with.

Back to the drawing board.

Any advice for the chronically dating? I'd love to hear it.


Harlie Reader said...

Okay, so AC guy is really a FWB? Sounds like you can't past the look thing. I don't know what to tell you about that except he obviously likes you, treats you right and you get along, right?

I haven't dated in over 14 years so I wouldn't know what to tell you. My hubby and I were friends before we started dating. It was just a natural progression for us.

I know, I'm not much help but I do hope you get your AC fixed soon.

Texas is still under a heatwave.

Mia Watts said...

Yeah, FWB. Sounds like he wants more but beyond the looks thing (and only because he looks like my ex who is a turd-bucket), there's no real chemistry there for me. No spark, just convenience. I've never had a FWB since I'm pretty much a good girl, but this is definitely interesting. ;)

Also, FWB guy has 4 kids. That's a lot of kids. Makes a girl really think about it first.

Harlie Reader said...

That's really a bummer. I can tell you this, when I meet my hubby there was no spark, just friendship. Of course, it went on for 6 years and then one day, BAM, the attraction was there. It was like a freight train hit me and I woke up to finally see a wonderful man. You'll get there but I wouldn't count this one out quite yet. You never know.

Keep your chin up. BTW, I had a FWB in my 20's.

Jen B. said...

My brother has been in the same sort of mode lately. If you find any good advice, post it here so I can share it with him. If you two lived closer together, I would try to play matchmaker. Sadly, he is in North Carolina. Good luck!

Janice said...

AC guy sounds nice, but then I haven't dated in 31 years. Or does dating your hubby count?


Mia Watts said...

@Jen B, Hey, I've been paired up with a fellow writer's son in California before. ;) I take that as total flattery, because she knows me and still thought it was a good idea. LOL. You know what? That could be fun. Talk about no pressure. Send him my way for penpal-ing. He and I can compare dating notes. It's amazingly weird out there. I could go for a normal male's point of view. ( just tell him to post your name in the subject line so that I don't delete him as spam.

Also I think I'm going to have to do regular dating updates. I've been regaling my friends and they insist that these events are blog postable insanity. LOL

Mia Watts said...

@Janice, it definitely counts. My ex and I never dated. He was kind of a prick though. He figured that once we were married, no effort needed to be made to keep me or my girls. Count yourself lucky. Sounds like you have a good one.

The AC guy and I are friends. I think that's a safe place to be.

Mia Watts said...

@Harlie, yeah, I'll keep it up. No worries there. FWB is a new thing for me. It's an adjustment just to know how to handle yourself. It could grow on me though. LOL.